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How to Use Writing to Radically Improve Your Relationships

A complete how-to on writing letters to others to keep good relationships strong, repair hurt feelings, and help you grow in unexpected ways

Sílvia Bastos
Better Humans
16 min readJul 26, 2018

Original photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash

What is the main thing keeping you from having amazing relationships?

What’s keeping you from being an unforgettable friend? An outstanding husband? An inspiring sister?

According to Stephen Covey, author of ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’, the reason why most relationships fail is because we focus on changing our superficial behaviors and attitudes before addressing the way we perceive the relationship itself.

We tackle the leaves of the problem instead of touching the roots.

We fiddle with effects instead of addressing the causes.

In other words, we say nice things without knowing how to communicate; we buy our children gifts as compensation for our lack of attention; we invest on “quick fixes” and make empty commitments, not realizing that the key to successful relationships lies in loving, consistent maintenance.

Why do we do this?

Sometimes it’s because we want to avoid facing and expressing our challenging emotions (who…

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Sílvia Bastos
Sílvia Bastos

Written by Sílvia Bastos

Habit Coach. Self-Experimenter. Find your ideal Keystone Habit here: https://journalsmarter.com/keystone-habit/

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