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A few weeks ago, my partner and I went through a challenging time in our relationship.
Our moments of fun and connection gave way to complaints and barely contained tears. Our morning walks together, once a source of laughter and connection, became dangerous minefields of mutual triggers. Every day we had emotionally charged conversations that’d be reason enough for many couples to break up.
We thought about possible causes. Maybe it was because we worked and lived together and needed more time apart. Maybe it was because I had been feeling unusually anxious lately, and he was tired and overworked. Or maybe it was simply a natural process, some old trauma coming to the surface in order to be healed, or some sort of cosmic test for us to prove ourselves as a couple.
And, to be honest, I think we did quite well getting through it.
Over the past six years, we’ve been building strong foundations for communication and safety in our relationship, and that helped us to weather this. We embraced the…
